Planning a Wedding: 5 Helpful Tips to Help Battle the Stress

A wedding is a special single-day event that requires weeks of preparation so that every detail falls into place. For brides-to-be and wedding planners, getting to plan an entire day’s worth of events for a group of people to celebrate together has never been more stressful. With the different elements to gather, numerous parties to coordinate with, and endless decisions to be made, planning a wedding might not be as simple as planning a vacation trip or throwing a birthday party.

Wedding Stress - Take a Breath

However, the brides can still get all their to-do lists checked while staying sane in time for the big day. On the wedding day itself, brides should look like a million dollars, not like they spent the last 4-week planning a wedding. So for all couples who are planning to get married, make sure to include a few de-stressing activities to balance the yin with the yang. Here are a couple of tips to remember for the stressed-out brides and the anxiety-ridden wedding planners:

  • Mix business with pleasure. Planning a wedding involves a lot of meetings and conferences, which can become a bit tiring after a couple of rounds. Make the experience more bearable by having a friend tag along or inviting your siblings to attend as well. Not only can you accomplish tasks for the wedding, you can also spend some quality time with your family and friends as well.
  • Build a support group. Gain advice and encouragement from previous brides and experienced family members. Any other bride will definitely understand what you are going through so don’t be afraid to ask for help, for guidance, and even for just a quick pep talk whenever you feel overwhelmed. Planning a wedding is never an easy task but with more people helping out, nothing is impossible!
  • Schedule in rewards along with the milestones. Finally gotten around into finishing the dreading task of tallying RSVPs? Reward yourself (plus the groom as well) with a massage appointment or a foot spa date. Treat yourself for all the hard work you have done in planning a wedding and enjoy the small victories in a healthy, beautifying way that will help keep you fresh for the big day.
  • Spa day is a must! In any bridal checklist or wedding planning checklist, a spa day for the bride and her bridesmaids is a permanent entry. A week or a couple of days before the wedding day, get to decompress and relax on a girl’s day out session to achieve that perfect bridal glow. Take note not to try any new beauty treatments or experiment with peels and scrubs to avoid causing rashes, swelling, or breakouts during the biggest day of your life.
  • Don’t forget about date night. Yes, it is always about planning a wedding with brides and grooms. However, do not lose focus on what the real objective is – the love between two people. So, in between all the busy schedules, set aside a day for a date with the fiancé. Make sure to do activities, which are unrelated to the wedding so you get to enjoy the last remaining days of actually being engaged.

Avoiding Wedding Problems

If you’ve ever watched any of those addicting wedding shows, you know that wedding planning isn’t all cake-tasting and rose-smelling. A wedding must be planned like any other big event; it takes a lot of time, energy, and often, frustration. Likewise, your role as maid of honor will take a lot of time and energy, and probably a little frustration, too. You have several events to plan, the shower and the bachelorette party, you are expected to be the glue that holds all the bridesmaids together, and you might even have to (GASP!) speak in public. Anytime you are charged with working with a group of people, there will be disagreements, and it will probably be no different in this situation. The best advice for you is simply to be prepared.

Do your homework and research everything: shower ideas, wedding gown shops, wedding toasts, and anything you are responsible for. When in doubt, Google it!

Stay on top of things and follow through with what you say you’ll do. If you are prompt and keep the bridesmaids and bride in the loop, there will be less room for discontent or talks of mutiny among your bridesmaid ranks.

Advice for Long-Distance Maids of Honor

Living far from the location of the wedding and/or the bride can be tough, and even tougher if you’re not in driving distance. If you’re not local, you simply can’t accompany the bride on dress shopping trips, vendor interviews and meetings, or lunches with the bridesmaids to discuss cake flavors or first-dance songs. It can feel horribly alienating to be the only one who feels out of the loop. If you are in driving distance, do what you can to schedule one trip into town early into the engagement to get together with the bride and bridesmaids and celebrate and discuss plans and expectations. If that’s not a possibility, absolutely get everyone’s email address and start an email circle. This is a great way for the bride to update you all on what she’s doing, and for you and the maids to discuss and plan the shower, dress shopping, and the bachelorette party. Be honest with the bride and the maids; if you can only afford to come into town for the wedding and one other time, let them know that. She’ll either decide that the shower and bachelorette party must be on the same day or understand that you can only be at one of them.

Keeping everyone happy

The maid of honor often has to act as a middleman to make the bride’s life a little easier, and sometimes she has to jump into action where she sees things that need to get done. There may be bridesmaids who feel like you are telling them what to do and resent that. That’s why it’s so important to really concentrate on being positive and diplomatic any time you communicate with them, especially when it’s a message to the entire group. You were chosen as maid of honor for this wedding, so that must mean you’re a lovely person. Just make sure that in the stress of being the bride’s right hand woman, you don’t lose that loveliness and become bossy and demanding.

Staying Organized

As the head of the Bridesmaid Brigade, you’ll want to help the bride out by making sure the maids know where they’re supposed to be and when. Again, the email circle will be helpful for this. You can create a calendar in a word processing program and notate all the important dates on it, such as when the bride wants you to help pick out bridesmaid dresses, possible dates for the shower and bachelorette party, deadlines for when their dresses have to be purchased, etc. You can email this file to all the other bridesmaids to make sure everyone’s in the loop and knows what is expected of them when.